- Jul 29, 2014
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Alright so this isn't a particularly happy topic and since I really don't know who else to talk to about this I'll risk trying here since many on this board are parents. Forgive me if I ramble but this is a lot to pour out here.
Sitting in the pick up line today waiting for my son one of the school's administrators ask me to park my truck and come inside. My son attends a private Christian school and has since kindergarten, he's currently in 10th grade. It's a K-12 school and for the most part it has been pretty good and has grown a lot over the last 3-4 years. We like the direction and improvements they have made and not sure if it makes a difference, but we contribute heavily often buying school supplies for the entire school, athletic and playground equipment, gifts for teachers and such.
Well, I was a little more than shocked that today during chapel and 5 minutes before dismissal the school Dean told my son and a few others to who were sitting on the floor in an aisle to get into chairs which they all did except for my son who grabbed a stool and sat in the middle of the aisle by the door. The Dean told him to get in a chair and when he did my son stood up, turned and gave the Dean a shoulder in the chest while doing the "gangster" head bob and "sucking teeth" gesture....2 Days suspension!!!
As shocking as this was it also happened with his tutor/therapist at our home about 6 weeks ago. My son was diagnosed PDD/NOS(mildly Autistic) at the age of 3 and the Therapist transitioned into tutoring him about 4 or 5 years back since he had pretty much "mainstreamed" socially and at school. In this case he grabbed her by the collar and lifted her off her feet when she grabbed his phone because it was distracting him from his homework. My son is 6'2" 220# at nearly 16 years old.
After this happened, we all agreed to let him sink or swim academically....I often thought he used her as a crutch to help him get his homework done. Well as it turned out he had maintained a mostly B average over the 6 weeks or so but getting him to use our checklist is like pulling teeth. He simply hates talking about school whether it be academically or socially. He never talks about other friends from school but the Dean and other Administrator said that he seems to interact well with other kids, participates in activities (he used to walk around alone at recess when he was in 1st thru 5th or 6th grade most of the time).
He really only has one close friend who lives close to us but he is 2 years older and has recently met a girl who is occupying more of his time. My son for the most part gets along well with me and is always down to hop in one of the Mustangs with me and go wherever I'm going at the moment but outside of that we really have no common interest, and he really has no other interest besides watching YT and listening to sh!tty rap music.
I really haven't decided on any punishment for this and quite frankly feel like it might be some or all of my fault. I have a slight impulsive anger problem(verbally) and sometimes I make comments driving and have had numerous escalated verbal incidments with my MIL over the years which he has witnessed first hand(she's a bit of a nutjob).
Any advise on how to proceed from this place?
Sitting in the pick up line today waiting for my son one of the school's administrators ask me to park my truck and come inside. My son attends a private Christian school and has since kindergarten, he's currently in 10th grade. It's a K-12 school and for the most part it has been pretty good and has grown a lot over the last 3-4 years. We like the direction and improvements they have made and not sure if it makes a difference, but we contribute heavily often buying school supplies for the entire school, athletic and playground equipment, gifts for teachers and such.
Well, I was a little more than shocked that today during chapel and 5 minutes before dismissal the school Dean told my son and a few others to who were sitting on the floor in an aisle to get into chairs which they all did except for my son who grabbed a stool and sat in the middle of the aisle by the door. The Dean told him to get in a chair and when he did my son stood up, turned and gave the Dean a shoulder in the chest while doing the "gangster" head bob and "sucking teeth" gesture....2 Days suspension!!!
As shocking as this was it also happened with his tutor/therapist at our home about 6 weeks ago. My son was diagnosed PDD/NOS(mildly Autistic) at the age of 3 and the Therapist transitioned into tutoring him about 4 or 5 years back since he had pretty much "mainstreamed" socially and at school. In this case he grabbed her by the collar and lifted her off her feet when she grabbed his phone because it was distracting him from his homework. My son is 6'2" 220# at nearly 16 years old.
After this happened, we all agreed to let him sink or swim academically....I often thought he used her as a crutch to help him get his homework done. Well as it turned out he had maintained a mostly B average over the 6 weeks or so but getting him to use our checklist is like pulling teeth. He simply hates talking about school whether it be academically or socially. He never talks about other friends from school but the Dean and other Administrator said that he seems to interact well with other kids, participates in activities (he used to walk around alone at recess when he was in 1st thru 5th or 6th grade most of the time).
He really only has one close friend who lives close to us but he is 2 years older and has recently met a girl who is occupying more of his time. My son for the most part gets along well with me and is always down to hop in one of the Mustangs with me and go wherever I'm going at the moment but outside of that we really have no common interest, and he really has no other interest besides watching YT and listening to sh!tty rap music.
I really haven't decided on any punishment for this and quite frankly feel like it might be some or all of my fault. I have a slight impulsive anger problem(verbally) and sometimes I make comments driving and have had numerous escalated verbal incidments with my MIL over the years which he has witnessed first hand(she's a bit of a nutjob).
Any advise on how to proceed from this place?
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